If I say I am beautiful, does it make me conceited and full of myself?

beauty (2)I saw myself in a full length mirror today and for the first time ever I saw how beautiful I am.

No makeup, no hair done, no pretty clothes.

Just me and my body.

I didn’t see perfection, I saw beauty.

I snapped a picture, and then I cried.

I cried because of the feelings of elation, and I cried because of my own blindness all these years. I cried because of all the times I thought I was ugly, and therefore acted as an ugly person.

As I write this, I’m struck at how foreign it feels to claim my own beauty.

If I say I am beautiful, does it make me conceited and full of myself?

What if I say I am not beautiful?

Doesn’t that make me self-conscious and insecure?

Are we to live in a purgatory world in which we cannot claim either?

Or do we continue to abide by social norms and be disgusted with what we see in the mirror?

It is socially acceptable to dislike, even hate, our bodies and faces.

Everyday we criticize, condemn and even physically abuse ourselves for not being good enough, pretty enough, thin enough or strong enough.

These thoughts and feelings are so ingrained in the fabric of our daily thoughts we are unaware of the direct impact it makes on our behavior. They determine who we talk to, and how. They control who we smile at, and when.

We shouldn’t tolerate this social norm anymore. We should change it.

It should be socially acceptable to enjoy the reflection that looks upon us in the mirror. It should be normal to adore what we see staring back.

It should be socially acceptable to enjoy the reflection that looks upon us in the mirror. It should be normal to adore what we see staring back.

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Because, until we can learn to see our own beauty, power and magnificence gazing back at us in that reflection we see everyday, we will continue to be prisoners to our own Ego. We will continue to be plagued by the abusive thoughts that confine us to the mediocrity that each and every one of us long to be free of.

God damnit, I am beautiful. I know this now. #BeautyUprising

Do you think it should be socially acceptable to love ourselves? Share your thoughts with me below.

Leave A Reply (16 comments so far)


  1. Regan Weigel
    4 years ago

    Our mind is our biggest prisoner of our self acceptance & often trap ourselves into believing we are not worthy of beauty. Letting go of those thoughts is the hardest war but necessary to achieve freedom of our deepest fears.


    • Kat is my first name
      4 years ago

      Regan, you said it so beautifully! It’s very true. Letting go of these thoughts are necessary to achieve the freedom we seek from our deepest fears.


  2. Paulissa Kipp
    4 years ago

    Wow, this post brought tears to my eyes. No, it doesn’t make us conceited. It is a marker of recovery and a sign of the Phoenix that we are. It wasn’t until I began a Sunday selfie project that I truly began owning my own beauty. I began to see my own soul and that was beautiful.


    • Kat is my first name
      4 years ago

      “A marker of recovery and a sign of the Phoenix.” You always have the best words to describe things Paulissa! Oooooh, and YES. You nailed it on the head again. It was my SOUL I saw, that was shining brightly and beautifully. Awww, thank you again for sharing yourself with me. <3


      • Paulissa Kipp
        4 years ago

        Love you, dear one.


  3. Bevin Hernandez
    4 years ago

    What a beautiful post! I definitely need to thing about how to see beauty and *be okay with it* in myself. This really really resonates with me.


    • Kat is my first name
      4 years ago

      Wow Bevin, and as I look at your profile picture I can’t help but to be struck by your beauty. When we taste something yummy, are we to deny how delicious it is? When we smell a flower, do we cringe our nose with disgust?

      The ability to see with our eyes is one of the many senses we were gifted with. Isn’t it strange we have been conditioned to deny this sense of “sight” and all the beauty it comes with?

      I’ve learned that appreciating the way I, or someone else, looks is equal to appreciating how they smell, or how their voice sounds.


  4. miscfinds4u
    4 years ago

    Sharing from my FB note 🙂 – BTW, you are gorgeous. Beyond beautiful. Don’t waste a minute thinking otherwise. I look at old photos of myself and wonder why I couldn’t love that person. She was young, skinny, and beautiful….but at the time all I saw was my flaws. So much of my life wasted on worrying about stupid stuff. Live. Love. Laugh…that’s all there is.


    • Kat is my first name
      4 years ago

      Hi Connie! Thank you SO much for sharing your thoughts here! I’ve had many epiphanies myself, looking back at old photos. I think to myself: “What was so bad about me then?” I love your insight and look forward to more!


  5. Nicole Belle
    4 years ago

    Love it, gorgeous girl! I love owning my pretty and I have a few thoughts to share about this, too! Thanks for opening the dialogue, look for a blog/vlog from me about this later in the week! <3 <3 <3


    • Kat is my first name
      4 years ago

      Hello my beautiful friend! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me. I know you and I are on the same wavelength with these awesome topics! Look forward to continuing this conversation with you!


  6. Danielle
    4 years ago

    The negativity towards one’s own physical looks is so common among women even young girls today. This is a sad reality that has got to end. You are right about this. Why do we have to get bothered by what other people will say if we accept our beauty? Go girl!


  7. Amanda
    4 years ago

    I am guilty of being disgusted with so many things I see when I look at the mirror everyday. I think I have big arms, big tummy and fat face. How did you change your outlook? What should I do, Kat?


  8. Lea
    4 years ago

    It felt like I was reading a Dove campaign while I was reading this. All the women and men (some guys think like this too) of the world should realize this as well. You should go on national TV and say these words! Hahaha! This is a good read! Thank you!


  9. Demi
    4 years ago

    I hope I’d feel the same way tomorrow when I wake up and look at my mirror. Thank you for making me realize that I have been stuck in this social norm for a long time already. I think we should also learn from kids. When I was a kid, my looks did not matter that much to me, what matters was that I was having fun.


  10. Abbey
    4 years ago

    I love your blog and your podcast, Kat! More power to you! Please post more articles like this! 😀

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